Let’s say someone’s in a relationship, there’s strong feelings, and one of those people is moving away. Any advice?
— Anonymous
(Sadly, this is a question I was able to reply to a few weeks ago.)
Advice about someone leaving, huh? Well, here’s what I’m trying to do: spend time together that we can look back at with fondness, knowing what we had was something special and enriched our lives while we were together.
The other part… I’m trying to remember if this is a quote or something that I’m making up: To truly love someone, you have to know when to let go. If it’s time for someone to leave, it’ll hurt for a while, but it’ll hurt more if you try to fight it. Accept that the person is leaving, cherish the time you have left together and know that even though you’ve moved apart, that emotional closeness will still remain.
Poetic, no?
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If you’re wondering who “we” is, I don’t blame you. I like to keep some aspects of my life private and my girlfriend was one of them. It’s a long story, but suffice it to say that it was time for her to begin a new chapter in life: “Life in Illinois”. And Shawn being there isn’t one of the plot twists. Today, I had to do one of the hardest things I’ve ever done in my life. Harder than any challenges in Beauty and the Geek, harder than finishing my last papers and exams to earn a double major in college, even harder than eating asparagus when I was a kid.
Today, I said goodbye to the woman I love.
We’ve spent parts of the last few weeks doing stuff together—we went to the Waterpark of America (first time for both of us), a couple different movies, a couple new restaurants… a lot of packing… that’s why I haven’t had the time or energy to do anything. Packing, staying up late, all sorts of good stuff. I’ll have to wash plenty of sweat out of the shirts I’ve been wearing while lifting heavy boxes and what not, but I may have to burn the one from today with all the boogers and tears that have soaked into the sleeves.
Anyway, it may take me a little while to get back into the flow of things, but it’ll happen eventually. Thanks to all of the people who read this blog for bearing with me, thanks to my dad for the big hug when I got home and thanks to… eh, you know who you are.
So goodbye, Casie. I wish you nothing but the best and I love you very much. Always forever.
I hope you were able to say “Good Bye” for all of us… We’ll be missing her too, Bro.
And if Casie ever chances to read this. Thank you for being a part of our family for this unfortunately short period of time. You will be missed by all of us and are welcome back at any time. To visit or to stay… 🙂
Brent
aww i feel bad for you, i’ve can’t say i’ve been in that situation but i feel for you. Well atleast you have alot of good memories. Like they say it’s better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all. Atleast i think that’s how it went lol. Anyways best of luck and maybe you guys might cross paths again someday 🙂
Somehow I’ve just found this nearly 6 year old post… I hope you’re fine now!
Anyway… I came to think you could be interested in this:
http://arxiv.org/pdf/1301.4733v5.pdf
It’s a very interesting (obviously not perfect) ‘love-model’!